No one understands you completely and it's Okay.

In this world, nobody will be able understand you completely and it’s not their fault. You also don’t understand anyone completely and it’s not your fault. In fact, it’s nobody’s fault.

First of all, everybody have this worldview which they have constructed and nurtured over the years and they try to see everything and everyone according to their worldview. They will judge according to their set of biases. They are not going to put aside their prejudices and confirmations for you. It will require a great deal of time, effort and mental space on their part to understand you; let’s be honest, nobody’s got that much time and energy to spare on (insignifant) you.

Secondly, even if they are ready to make an effort to understand you by putting aside their biases; even if their intentions are pure; even if their worldview matches your; still, they just can’t understand you completely. It’s just simply not possible and it’s neither their fault nor yours.

Further, even after all the efforts, they can only understand you in binaries. Either you confirm to their bias or not. You’d come across as a guy/girl who’s happy or not happy, good or not good, hardworking or not hardworking, sincere or not sincere, honest or not honest, politically correct or not correct, introvert or extrovert, religious or not religious etc.

Only you know yourself completely. You know that you’re part liberal part conservative. You’re part witty & funny and part sad. You’re part absolutely original and part a little bit fake. You’re part courageous and part a coward. Part of you sees hope in everything and part of you has lost it all. You hold multiple views simultaneously.

You are a manifestation of all these diverse views that you have acquired over your journey of life. It’s your journey. They have seen only a part of it. They have seen your beginning, your destination and some major milestones, but they didn’t witness the whole of it. They didn’t see the demons you fought in the darkness of the night. They didn’t see you lying on the bed for hours, struggling to sleep. They didn’t see the sacrifices you made to come this far. They can’t notice the restlessness that you feel inside constantly. They see you as only ‘one’ and they are not aware that ‘thousands of you’ exist inside you.

People will not understand that and they will always try to tag you with their preconceived notions. So, don’t worry about what people think about you, they don’t know you completely. No matter how closed they are to you. Whether they are in the form of spouse, parents, children or best of your friends, they don’t know you. They will never be able to know you, just like you won’t be able to know them.  It’s not their fault, it’s not yours either.

The world is built that way. Information about you will always travel in binaries to them and you just cannot do anything about it. Nobody will be able to understand you in the way you see yourself. I know it’s sad but it doesn’t matter. Don’t take their judgment to your heart. It should not matter to you what they think of you. Don’t confirm to their biases. They don’t know you, only you know yourself.

In this world, where no person can understand the other one completely, the best we can do is to show a bit more empathy towards each other. There are all kinds of people in the world, we should accept that fact and we should avoid this tendency of judging people at all cost. We should meet people with smiling faces, broad minds and open arms.

Whenever people around us do something unexpected, we should be more forgiving about that, for it represents only a part of their personality & not the whole of it. We should develop a better and deeper understanding of the human nature and should accept the fact that a person can possess multiple views simultaneously and that none of the viewpoints held by that person defines the person completely. We should understand that personalities are not just black and white; they come in all kinds of shades.

Finally, on one hand, we should never be bothered about the opinion of others about us as no one in this world understands us completely, on the other hand, we should be more caring and empathetic in our approach towards others, for they are already consumed in fighting their inner battles. PEACE.

Karma is a Bitch

They say Karma is a bitch(I don't know who 'they' are, I don't even know if they exist or not, but for I don't know who said it, I assume it's always safe to say 'they said it'). It's true, it's absolutely true. In fact upon contemplating on it (yeah! in that pose in which thinkers or philosophers lean on their study table and position their face as if they are looking at some distant object) I found that the concept of Karma in itself is a total bitch. So the concept is (or you can say 'as the legend goes' to give narrative an epic touch) that Good intent and good deed contribute to good karma(good karma gets credited and bad karma gets debited), while bad intent and bad deed contribute to bad karma(Bad karma gets credited and good karma gets debited) (and that makes God a hell of an accountant!) and to complement that concept there must be some sort of compilations of the repercussions and rewards one gets on accumulating a specific amount of bad karma or good karma respectively( and in that way God gives our law makers a run for their money too!) Now that the concept of Karma is clear to us, let's discuss how it'd work in real world. Suppose a person A does something morally wrong (bad news for the poor guy, bad Karma just got credited to his account). Now that the person has accumulated Bad Karma, there should be a repercussion to it and to inflict that repercussion there must be a carrier or agent of some sort (we'll use word 'agent' from here on to give our narrative a 'spy movie' touch). Suppose our agent has a name(yeah! You guessed it right, it's 'B'). Now that B has punished A for his bad Karma, he has acquired some bad Karma in the process too (It's really hard to think of any good way to punish someone in real world) and for that he also has to face repercussions. To inflict repercussions on B, enters ours agent C ( untill and unless A and B decides to punish each other recursively and turn their enmity into a Gangs of wasseypur sort of revenge saga) and hence D, E, F and so on. So we see that the bad Karma of A triggered a chain of Bad Karma and in this way the whole lot gained Bad Karma and created a vicious cycle of Bad Karma and repercussions. Same argument can be extended to Good Karma also. But the point worth noting is that the concept of Karma triggers an endless chain which makes the whole set to be a Good one or Bad one. This argument seems to consolidate itself when we see it in light of relatively small finite numbers. Suppose there are only two persons X and Y (fortunately no more A and B, sigh!) in a sample and X acquired Bad Karma then the onus to punish him is solely on Y and thus Y has to acquire Bad Karma to upheld the concept of Karma(this had been the main theme of many Amitabh Bachchan movies in 70's and 80's) Let's take another example. Suppose there are 10 persons in a sample and one of them acquired Bad Karma. Now to upheld the concept of Karma anyone out of the remaining nine has to punish A and that triggers a chain of events in which the last one (though he might have accumulated some good Karma) has no option but to acquire the Bad Karma finally to punish the others and eventually becoming one of them ( Yugpurush's change of heart or rather soul can be partially attributed to this!) So we can see that the concept of Karma is self propagating one and there are numerous cases in real world where we can see it working evidently, like violence triggers more violence, fanaticism triggers more fanaticism. Same goes with terrorism, Religious bigotry, lies, deceit etc. As I've said it earlier that the same argument can also be extended to Good Karma but here's the tricky or you can say fun part. In every religion it's very easy to acquire the Bad Karma, infact according to various religions beliefs even trivial things in day to day life would fetch Bad Karma like cutting nails or shaving on Tuesday and Saturday, listening to music and drinking wine, even unconsciously killing ants or insects count as bad Karma. Hence, One has no option but to lead most austere and ascetic life in order to acquire sufficient good Karma whereas every attempt to lead a materialistic life will acquire some bad Karma and in this way Bad Karma will outweigh and outnumber the good Karma by far. Bad Karma will trigger and fetch more Bad Karma in self propagating manner and create this never ending vicious cycle of Bad karmas and repercussions and fill this world with more and more of Bad Karma. So either this Karma thing is a big time fake, hoax and among those abstract concepts which humanity have invented with no concrete base or we are living in a world that is very bad place to live on and is doomed with no hope for Good.